a guest blog post by Leanne Chapman
When you’re working on building your own business as a solo entrepreneur, often with your old office job still in tow, not to mention your family commitments and responsibilities, one glance at your ‘to do’ list can be enough to make you want to crawl back into bed.
How do you keep going when it feels like it’s all too much and you can’t even remember why you wanted to do this in the first place? I imagine it’s a little like what climbing enthusiasts feel when they set out to climb something like Mt Everest. Do they look at the peak up there in the clouds each and every day and remind themselves that this is where they need to get to? Probably not.
Any major goal is a series of small ‘one foot in front of the other’ goals. For a climber, just getting to base camp would probably be step number 267 on their ‘to do’ list. It’s possible to get so caught up in these smaller steps that when we do finally look up, our destination is suddenly a whole lot closer.
It’s like those times when you see a niece or nephew after a few months apart and you notice how much they’ve grown. Their parents don’t really notice this because they see their children every day. Likewise, if we watch our destination closely, we won’t notice our progress as much as we would if we took our eyes off it and focused instead on the next step, and the step after that.
The process of avoiding overwhelm is a little like driving a long distance at night. We can really only see a tiny space ahead of us at a time, but we can drive a great distance in this manner. Building a business is like this – we only need to see the next step to move ahead, but if we keep stopping to check our destination we will take a lot longer to reach it.
Continually looking at our ultimate goal can also create doubts and hesitation because we feel so overwhelmed about the distance we still have to travel. What often happens at this point is that other people pick up on this and also begin to have doubts about us. Have you ever watched someone who was unsure about what they were doing? Unless the person was someone close to you in whom you had total faith, you may have also started to doubt their abilities to finish the task. If we feel strongly committed to our goals, oddly enough other people will start to believe in them too.
So it’s crucial to believe in yourself by ensuring your goals are in alignment with your values rather than someone else’s. If you know what’s true for you and you follow this truth, not only will you find putting one foot in front of the other much easier even when the going gets tough, you’ll notice others will also believe in you and support you through these times.
If you’re not sure if your goals are in alignment with your own values, pick up a free copy of my e-book “5 Days to Identifying a Life That Works For You“ so that you can discover, through the use of simple creative activities, five small steps to getting back in touch with your true self again. Doing this will ensure you are moving towards your goals with motivation and support, avoiding overwhelm along the way.